Eight mistakes parents make to teach discipline

Thursday, 24 July 2014

Eight mistakes parents make to teach discipline

Eight mistakes parents make to teach discipline

  Instead of showering love and affection, most parents do not bring up their children properly due to whatever reasons they imagine. But the end result is very bad for the entire family and by the time this is realized the years fly off and the future of the family bonding suffers and it is a lose-lose situation for all.

So as grown up persons, it is our duty and responsibility to bring up our children very well and ensure a win-win situation in our family life.

- SIVA

A child is gift of GOD and it is our duty to secure this gift and let them flourish. Though the parents have deep affection and love for their children, yet, in today's stressful life, they find themselves at the losing end, because, sometimes under mental pressure of their day to day life, their behaviour towards their children gets off tracked and it develops communication gap. Most of the parents feel that there are many things to learn for good parenting. In Utopian world, parents are thought to be super heroes who have flexibility, energy and patience beyond limit. But, as we know, perfection itself is abnormality and none is perfect. Therefore, one must have a wide variety of practicality and try to avoid some mistakes when one is in the process of making one's child disciplined. Some of the common disciplinary mistakes the parents make are:--

1.Yelling and Nagging

Parents, sometimes, keep yelling at their children when they find them hard to be controlled. This way the parents simply vent their frustration. But it is of no avail because the children, with the time passing by, learn to deal with these "habitual yellers".

Nagging is another mistake the parents keep doing. They don't want to make their children angry so that they keep asking them constantly if they do this or that.

2.Lecturing and Advice Giving

Lecturing is just a monologue and involving no interaction with the audience. A child who is unable to keep pace with the class in completing the homework, the lecturing has no effect on his mentality. Likewise advice giving is also an action which generally falls in deaf ears.

These are painstaking exercises having no results.

3.Shaming and Belittling

Parents, sometimes, strangely behave in the way which cause their children feel inadequate and smaller. This is the grave mistake and the parents should keep themselves off from such type of behaviour

4.Physical punishment and Coercion

A child can never be disciplined by the physical force and coercion. These types of behaviour are only helpful in creating rebellious attitude in a child. Try and talk to your child to help him understand where what exactly his problem is.

5.Every child is unique

One should always keep in mind that every child is unique and behave accordingly. Do not compare your child with others. There might be something in your neighbour's son or daughter that your child doesn't have but similarly your child also has some qualities which their child does not have.

6.Imposing excessive guilt

One has to be careful of the behaviour not to make one's child guilt conscious. Do not exaggerate any matter. Children are very sensitive and this would make your sensitive child guilt conscious leading him to depression.

7.Don't expect too much

Treat the child as a child not as an adult and don't overstretch his limits. Give him/her their own space and let them take their own decisions. This will make them happy and develop a strong bond between you both.

8.Be a role model

A child is always following the footsteps of his parents, so be a role model. Do not do anything you don't want to see your child doing like smoking, drinking using wrong words etc. Children have the tendency to follow their parents and you may unknowingly lead your child in the wrong direction.

These are some common mistakes the parents must be aware of.

ps: THIS APPLIES TO TEACHERS AND ALL OTHERS WHO INTERACT WITH CHILDREN.

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